Advanced Maternal Age and Stillbirth

This is an interesting subject to write about because nobody likes to think that they’ve crossed over into the advancing age category. Remember before we start you’re only as old as you feel (which in my case sees me hitting oldest ever living person age, especially as we’re halfway through a rainy half term :/…

Birth Plans (and Flow Charts)

Crack open your coloured pens, your pretty notebook and your laptop and make a start on your birth plan! Laminating is entirely optional 😉 I’m still pretty furious that one of my clients this week was told she wasn’t allowed to write her birth plan yet. Errrr 🤨 <— my actual face. Birth plans aren’t something that you…

The system is broken…and it’s breaking women

Now, I preface this with the fact I love the NHS. I really, really do. It’s a hundred times better than any privatised, corporate system could ever be and it has some of the most dedicated people working for it I’ve ever come across. So why am I so angry with it? Because it’s failing…

You and your NICU baby

Having a baby in nicu is a strange old time in ways that many people don’t get. You become fiercely protective of them but you have to put your trust in others to look after them. You often have to inhibit your natural instincts to hold and comfort them because they need more treatment than…

Ten years ago I became a mother. And I became friendless.

Becoming a mother was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Not just birth, although that left me wishing the baby would disappear halfway through the experience and I could go back to not having a baby at all thank you very much. But the act of becoming a mother, that transition time between…